Divorcing can be a difficult time for the children of the couple in question. Teenagers in particular might find it embarrassing and want to keep it secret from as many people as possible. Naturally, they may be totally against the idea of you telling the school.
Whatever age your children are, it is generally recommended that you do tell their school. Tell them you intend to do this first, and explain why it is important and what information you will limit it to. Hopefully, that way they will find it less upsetting and understand your reasons and feel you have respected their wishes, rather than just going over their heads.
So, how can you explain to your kids why it is important to inform the school?
Emergency contacts
The school needs to be able to contact you and your child’s other parent if needed. Note that there may be exceptions to this, but that is what is usual. Let’s say your child has a severe asthma attack or breaks a leg while playing football. Maybe the teachers will ring you first, but if you can’t pick up because you’re driving, are in a meeting or your phone has died, then it’s far better that they can quickly contact the other parent. Accurate information about the child and parents is also required for school records.
What happens at home affects school and vice versa
Your child may behave differently due to the divorce. Kids’ grades often drop, for instance, which could be critical if your child is close to final exams and the teachers are trying to guide them on where to apply for college. Other kids start hanging out with an unsavory crowd as a reaction to the home situation. If the teachers know the child is going through a difficult period at home, they can account for it in their advice and actions.