Approaching your children with news of the divorce is one of the most challenging conversations. According to the Huffington Post, divorce can be the best solution for you, your spouse, and your children.
However, if you do not handle the conversation with care, you may make the whole ordeal more difficult for your children to handle.
Talk with your children separately
Some parents think they should have the conversation separately, but you may want to unite to talk to your kids. When you approach your children together, you give off the impression that you and your spouse will continue to work together for the sake of your children. You show yourselves as a united front that cares about the best interests of your kids. Additionally, it helps the two of you keep your stories similar. Never cast blame on one parent.
Overexplain the details of the divorce
Children do not always need a lot of information about divorce. If you have small children, do not explain too much. You can keep the discussion simple. Explain that you and your spouse will have two different homes but love them. Some young children will have questions, but some may not. Try to reassure children rather than giving them a chance to question whether they played a role in your breakup.
Older children may need more information, but you do not always have to share something if it makes you uncomfortable. Kids do not always understand the intricacies of marriage and you do not have to try to make them understand.
While you may have negative feelings towards your partner, do not let your children pick up on them or think they need to have the same feelings.